We’re Married…We’re Happy! This is the greeting you heard when you got our answering machine after we got married in 1999. I know, it’s sappy but true! We had so much fun recording it. I still chuckle about it.
Today I am grateful for my marriage to Oz, we have been married for over 20 years. Before that, we dated for the better part of 4 years. I don’t know where the time has gone but it sure has flown by!
Oz & I were older when we got married. I was 35 and he was 43. Both of us were both set in our ways! We were used to being on our own and doing things our way. This was a learning curve for us, but we got through it!
I have learned along the way that marriage takes a lot of work. It is both one of the hardest things and one of the easiest things I have ever done. Does that make sense to you?
We have learned to be patient with one another. Communication is key. To forgive each other (this is a biggie). To respect & appreciate each other. To laugh a lot & have fun together. To let go and move on. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Trust me when I say life has the ability to bring you to your knees. Oz & I have lifted each other back up more than once.
So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, every day. You and me…every day.
– Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
We are both Type A, strong-willed Taurus’. When we disagree, it can be explosive! We are both stubborn, he thinks I am more stubborn than him. He says he can literally see my heels digging in! Ha, I don’t know…he is probably right with this one!
I am sure you have heard the saying “Never go to bed mad at each other”. It is both true and false. There might be times when you are still ticked at each other but discussing this at night while exhausted, angry and probably unreasonable is never a good idea. At least for us. Things can spiral out of control quickly; you might say something you didn’t mean; those zingers can come out. Just go to bed. Sleep on it, you might not sleep well but hopefully, you have calmed down by morning. I guess my point is to know when to pick the right time to discuss topics that may be stressful.
Some of the many things I love about my husband:
- He is supportive of me
- He can fix anything!
- He holds my hand
- He is committed to our marriage
- He gives the best hugs
- He always compliments me by telling me how beautiful I am
- He kisses me goodbye every morning while I am still sleeping
- He opens my car door
- He is good to his mom
- He is the hardest working man that I know
- He is a great provider
- He makes me feel safe, I know I am protected in his arms
We have the innate ability to drive each other crazy but at the end of the day, we always have each other’s back.
Isn’t Love is a beautiful thing?